From where I come from, it is a societal MUST to have a mom and dad, it's always a package, afterall, without papa's splooge and momma's acidic baby factory I wouldn't be here...
Up till now, I still have a very efficient mother and a functioning father and an unwanted (potentially accidental) little sister (I'm KIDDING OK?) And.. I've always wondered how I'd be as a person without the full elements of a nuclear family, without a mother, I'd probably would not even be here in Sweden and writing this blog, without a father, I'd probably be gay. And without a sister... hrrm... nah.. too good to be true.
It has always come to me as a surprise when I meet other kids who:
1. Lost a parent
2. Had a single parent
3. Product of a divorced couple
4. Have a 3rd thumb (I met one in the 1st grade)
Whenever I encounter such people, I could never help thinking that they must be either traumatised or used to the entire thing, specially when they've grown up with both parents.
Until a few years ago (thanks again Sweden), I've always seen divorce as one of the harshest thing that could happen in life (next to death, Hitler, and Mel Gibson movies).
Apparantly, it's a growing trend here in Sweden, not that it's a bad thing, it's just an observation. and once again, i'm not stereotyping Swedes.. just saying that Sweden has the HIGHEST divorce rate in the world with a mouth-watering 55%
as proven by this blog http://www.darndivorce.com/divorce-rates-around-the-world/
First of all... WOW! And secondly, how is this even possible? The marriage vows I grew up with included words like... "..through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.."
It lit a fire up my taint knowing how lightly couples take their divorce here.. okay, so people don't pull off a Britney Spears wedding when drunk, divorce when sober stunt.. But as far as I'm concerned, they might as well do so.
The real victims aren't the couples, their products of love (or lust) are the ones affected by the divorce.. I've met, still know and adored people who are products of a divorce. Majority of whom live with their mothers after the divorce... This can be seen in 2 shades.. one, it's only fair the mom takes the child because she endured the "magic" of childbirth (which we know is full of screams of pain and blood).. on the other buttcheek, it's also possible that it's unfair that the mom keeps the child, she already endured childbirth, let dad handle the puberty and teenage rebellion. In the end, it all depends on how much of a douche the child is.
On top of all of this, it's the women who usually initiates the divorce as discussed more thoroughly in this blog: http://mangans.blogspot.com/2008/02/feminism-birth-rates-divorce.html
Girl power has reached a new level of liberation and me no like it too much do I? =(
more than 70% of the 55% divorces were initiates by the wives, and only to be strengthened this year by Beyonce who released 2 singles in a row depicting feministic insights and evul husbands... thank you so much Beyonce, I thank you for all the crying children who'll never grow up with a father figure just so you can dance around in leotards being sexy and all... *drools*
And for parents out there... NO it's not ok to get a divorce just because your child's in college and is financially independent... it... still... hurts... ok? Now be happy and remember what that ring on your finger symbolizes.
Up till now, I still have a very efficient mother and a functioning father and an unwanted (potentially accidental) little sister (I'm KIDDING OK?) And.. I've always wondered how I'd be as a person without the full elements of a nuclear family, without a mother, I'd probably would not even be here in Sweden and writing this blog, without a father, I'd probably be gay. And without a sister... hrrm... nah.. too good to be true.
It has always come to me as a surprise when I meet other kids who:
1. Lost a parent
2. Had a single parent
3. Product of a divorced couple
4. Have a 3rd thumb (I met one in the 1st grade)
Whenever I encounter such people, I could never help thinking that they must be either traumatised or used to the entire thing, specially when they've grown up with both parents.
Until a few years ago (thanks again Sweden), I've always seen divorce as one of the harshest thing that could happen in life (next to death, Hitler, and Mel Gibson movies).
Apparantly, it's a growing trend here in Sweden, not that it's a bad thing, it's just an observation. and once again, i'm not stereotyping Swedes.. just saying that Sweden has the HIGHEST divorce rate in the world with a mouth-watering 55%
as proven by this blog http://www.darndivorce.com/divorce-rates-around-the-world/
First of all... WOW! And secondly, how is this even possible? The marriage vows I grew up with included words like... "..through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.."
It lit a fire up my taint knowing how lightly couples take their divorce here.. okay, so people don't pull off a Britney Spears wedding when drunk, divorce when sober stunt.. But as far as I'm concerned, they might as well do so.
The real victims aren't the couples, their products of love (or lust) are the ones affected by the divorce.. I've met, still know and adored people who are products of a divorce. Majority of whom live with their mothers after the divorce... This can be seen in 2 shades.. one, it's only fair the mom takes the child because she endured the "magic" of childbirth (which we know is full of screams of pain and blood).. on the other buttcheek, it's also possible that it's unfair that the mom keeps the child, she already endured childbirth, let dad handle the puberty and teenage rebellion. In the end, it all depends on how much of a douche the child is.
On top of all of this, it's the women who usually initiates the divorce as discussed more thoroughly in this blog: http://mangans.blogspot.com/2008/02/feminism-birth-rates-divorce.html
Girl power has reached a new level of liberation and me no like it too much do I? =(
more than 70% of the 55% divorces were initiates by the wives, and only to be strengthened this year by Beyonce who released 2 singles in a row depicting feministic insights and evul husbands... thank you so much Beyonce, I thank you for all the crying children who'll never grow up with a father figure just so you can dance around in leotards being sexy and all... *drools*
And for parents out there... NO it's not ok to get a divorce just because your child's in college and is financially independent... it... still... hurts... ok? Now be happy and remember what that ring on your finger symbolizes.
